"LOVE"... Exactly what is it?



"LOVE"... Exactly what is it?

You must've heard someone say that "her smile is so beautiful that just looking at that makes the rest of the world a little blurry". Well, what if all these cheesy lines are indeed true? What if it's just that such an experience is yet to happen in your life?!

Love is not something that you can buy or exchange. It's surely not something that you can control and toggle on and off as per your wish. But believe me when I say that love is something that everyone experiences at least once in his/ her lifetime People misuse the word 'love' so frequently nowadays that it has lost its true meaning. When someone confesses his or her love after just the 5th date or so, usually it's either the subconscious need to get into a relationship or under the duress of reverting to that premature "I love you". That constant need to have someone to love you and get into a relationship often leads to misinterpretation of infatuation for love. When this physical attraction leads to physical intimacy, sometimes both the partners feel that their having "great sex" is the reason they are falling in love. And this time, it's lust that gets misinterpreted for love.

So the question is, Which of the above-stated forms is actually "love"?

The thing is that love isn't something that you develop while going on a few dates or moving in together. It isn't even marrying the guy or girl of your dreams. Loving someone basically means that you find your happiness in theirs. It happens to that extent where it is literally impossible to live without that person. This doesn't mean just getting habitual of the presence of your partner or breaking up and being in a state where everything reminds you of them. Love is what makes you adjust or sacrifice something for your partner without you even realizing and making a great deal out of it.
Every relationship has fights involved. But when you two fight and resolve it with a smile on both of your faces, feeling more closer to each other...that's when you get a hint that your relationship is getting real. Going a little too far just to bring a little smile on your partner's face...now that's when you get the hint that you've fallen in love!

"Going a little too far"... Confused by this?

Well, this phrase is subjective to each individual.
Like, traveling a significant amount of distance at midnight when you are sleepy, just to meet her cause she wished for you to be there, might be going a little too far. Giving up on an important meeting or friends just to sneak that one kiss or a hug from her in your busy schedule, might be going a little too far. Doing something cheesy when she explicitly told you not to, just to check that whether she actually meant it or was it just superficial and she actually likes being treated like a princess, might be going a little too far. Basically, anything that you thought earlier was stupid or unnecessary or isn't in your comfort zone, is going a little too far coz all you get in return is that smile for which you subconsciously long.....and don't forget, there is always a chance for sex as your reward too!...
Now, This is when you realize and admit that 'love has no boundaries'. Coming back, Love is basically getting attached to someone both emotionally and physically.

This happens on such a deeper level (pun intended) that you long for the satisfaction and the happiness that only your partner can provide coz sometimes even their simple touch can give you Goosebumps. Thus, the bar and the conditions that you set for your life partner or a potential date are not only fulfilled by this person, but they get raised to a whole new level by which every future person is gonna get compared. That's why it's common to say that "I'll never find someone like her/ him" post-breakup. Let's table this discussion on "What is Love" for now and address a tangent to this whole love scenario...

'What's the difference between love and true love'?

"LOVE"... Exactly what is it?
To put it simply, just add life to love and that defines true love! What it means is that when you start the relationship and fall in love gradually, you have the whole life in front of you to spend together. Now that life, as we know, has its challenges. So when your relationship faces all of those difficulties and when you and your partner, as are supposed to be in love, go through them and come out with that love intact, then you call that true love. What life does is make you and your partner show what 

both of you are capable of doing for each other in all kinds of situations. It makes you check your relationship's compatibility. Those talks that you used to impress your partner about giving up everything for them, suddenly start becoming real. You have to adjust, sacrifice and compromise for the sake of your relationship. And the couples who do it without realizing it's a big deal, survive!

Now you must be thinking that it's actually difficult to go through life with the love intact. But the truth is, it's not as hard as it sounds. When you actually reach the phase of the relationship where you fall in love, you start enjoying the little not-so- significant moments and even those quirks of your partner. Like that hand in hand walk on the terrace, those long drives to random places, going window shopping, the movie make outs....every little thing that you experience like this, gives you pleasure when you are in love. And this, unlike sexual gratification, is the pleasure your soul seeks. This is what makes it easier for both of you to survive in those harsh times.

I just have one thing to say now... The only condition for all of this to happen is that you gotta remember that the love you have for your partner is, and always should be greater than your ego, or sometimes even your self-respect.

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  1. Fantastic read! I agree 100% with everything, especially how we use the word love too much in this day and age that it has started to lose its meaning.

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  2. Wonderful read. It really puts the idea of love and true love in perspective.

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  3. That's a stellar read. And I agree with the point that you've made - love can't be bought or exchanged.

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  4. "But when you two fight and resolve it with a smile on both of your faces, feeling more closer to each other...that's when you get a hint that your relationship is getting real." <-- that is SO true! me and my boyfriend's fights almost always end in giggles or straight up laughter

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  5. Very insightful. I enjoyed reading this and it made me stop and think. Thanks for sharing!

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  6. I agree with everything here. Just a beautiful post on love. It really does change over time but it can be in a good way if it is well taken care of throughout the relationship!

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  7. "You have to adjust, sacrifice and compromise for the sake of your relationship." I can relate to this aswell. I agree with everything written in this read. Keep going. Waiting for more! :D

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  8. Such a good read!
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  9. This was a beautiful read! I appreciate how you've weaved in the concept of love in the era of modern dating and put forward your thoughts so smoothly! Keep writing :D

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